Special day just for love

For such a popular event, little is know about the beginnings of Valentine’s Day.

Records are so sketchy, in fact, that the confusion over its origins led the Catholic Church in 1969 to drop St. Valentine’s Day from the calendar of official Catholic feasts.

Many believe that Valentine was a good priest in ancient Rome, who died on Feb. 14, 270.

He lived during Rome’s reign of Claudius the Cruel. This was not a peaceful time, and wars raged for years.

Claudius would summon men to do battle at faraway reaches of the Roman Empire.

Husbands did not want to leave their wives and families, and young bachelors did not want to leave their lovers. They resisted going to war.

To remedy the situation, Claudius the Cruel banned all marriages and ordered all engagements to be broken off immediately.

Those orders upset the priest Valentine.

When a young couple came to his temple for advice, he secretly married them in front of the altar. Another pair sought his aid, and he secretly wedded them as well. Others came and were quietly married.

Valentine became the friend of lovers.

Claudius the Cruel got wind of Valentine’s actions, and ordered him in prison. He stayed there until his death, and is buried in the church of St. Praxedes in Rome.

That’s the story of Valentine’s life.

The beginning of St. Valentine’s Day lie in the ancient Roman festival of Lupercalia, which was celebrated on Feb. 15.

For 800 years the Romans had dedicated the day to the god Lupercus.

On Lupercalia, a young man would draw the name of a young woman in a lottery and would then keep the woman as a sexual companion for the year.

Pope Gelasius I did not agree with the custom.

He changed the lottery to have both young men and women draw the names of saints whom they would then emulate for the year.

Instead of the pagan god Lupercus, the patron of the feast became Valentine.

For men, the day continued to be a day to pursue the affections of women.

It became a tradition to give handwritten love letters that included Valentine’s name.

After Christianity was firmly established the priests wanted the people to forget the old heathen gods.

But they did not wish to do away with all their feasts and sports. So they kept the Lupercalia and called it Valentine’s day.

Fast forward to Valentine’s Day 2013.

What can you do to express your love?

There’s more than you think. In fact, there are hundreds of small things you can do to express love.

For example:

– Leave a small note saying “I LOVE YOU” beside her pillow to make her day begin with some romance in the air.

– Prepare Valentine cake in the shape of heart.

– Take her out for a long romantic drive.

– Send bouquet of roses with a love note.

– Leave a small gift hidden in some corner of home with clues to its where about.

– Make a homemade Valentine’s Day card.

– Go dancing together.

– Buy a nice set of lingerie/briefs.

– Write a sincere, wonderful love letter.

– Give her/him a nice sensuous message.

– Kiss and hug your spouse often.

– Propose to your spouse again.

– Just take time out to express your feelings, thoughts, fears and even fantasies to her.

– Brush or comb her/his hair.

– Let her sleep while you watch over the children.

– Start saving for a special holiday fund for the two of you.

– Do whatever the two of you want to do.

Enjoy this day of love.